Y ou want to know what it's like to have sex before you're married? It's like building a big wall between you and God, a wall you wonder if you'll ever break through. I know because I had sex with my boyfriend.
Bucking against conservative Christian tradition advising against extra-marital sex, the Rev. Bromleigh McCleneghan, a married mother of three and associate pastor for ministry with families at Union Church of Hinsdale in Illinois, says single Christians can have sex as long as it's "mutually pleasurable and affirming. Citing 1 Corinthiansmany Mainline Protestant and evangelical churches like the Assemblies of God Churchadvise against sexual relations among single Christians.
Kissing while naked? Oral sex? Turns out, a bit off-putting to both, but promising.
But it's not that simple. And then, you could have at it all you wanted. But what I wasn't taught in Sunday School is that the Bible's teachings on sex have been interpreted in many different ways. I didn't know that the early Christians actually started practicing celibacy because they were convinced the end of the world was near.
Cart 0. Sounded like a grand plan to me. Meet a boy, marry the boy, give him something no one has ever had, have a family and make God proud because you did it the right way.
Twenty years later, that ritual strikes me as almost innocuous — how much power do we give to the scribbled signature of a teenager who had only the faintest idea what sex was? Yet it also carried a psychological burden that many of my peers and I are still unloading. It held out the promise that if I remained pure, then God would reward good behavior with a husband — surely before I turned 30 so that we could have lots of children.
Do you know unmarried couples who attend church, have consensual sex, and may even live together? According to a study by the Barna Group. The majority of American adults believe cohabitation is generally a good idea.
So, how far is too far? Is that a valid question to ask? In a world where sex is seen in every medium and condoms are being handed out in schools, what is a Christian teen to do when confronted with conflicting advice about what constitutes a sexual activity or abstinence? Here are the top 10 lies Christian teens tell themselves when it comes to answering the question, "How far is too far?
It was during the latest round of former classmate and celebrity wedding announcements that my friends and I noticed the number of soon-to-be brides announcing that they were waiting until their wedding night to have sex. Whether they were virgins or dedicated to celibacy, they wanted it to be known that they were sending a message about their faith through abstention. They were Christians, godly women who would wait until they were with their husbands to share in the joys of sex.
We want ways to keep the spark alive in Christian marriage! It can be hard to find articles on sex in Christian marriage. As my husband and I grew together and got to know each other physically, as well as emotionally and spiritually, we came to understand that every life-giving marriage is connected to the ultimate Life-Giver—the One who made sexual intimacy in marriag.